What’s wrong with alturism?
What’s wrong is giving up the Life. And why is the happyness of another person is important and good but not your own? Why are you always the outsider and the secrifical animal? In good relationship there should be no victims. No secrifices.
OK so in a relationship, for example,… talk about hetro sexual world for a moment… to secrifice for your loved one…
What I mean by scrifice and what generally meant is give up some values which are important to your for something else which is lesser value or nonvalue. That is sacrifice. I don’t approve of that. Now, if you love your husband or wife, and you have to select between spending money for your spouse who is ill or going to a night club. It is not a sacrifice to spend money for your spouse if he or she is your value. That is what you want to do. But, if you let for your husband or wife die in order to save your neighbour, that would be alturism. If you reject or pass up something or someone which is valuable to you in favour of something or someone who is stranger or in worse an enemy. If you sacrifice a friend in favour of an enemy, that is alturism.
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